Al Roker did a riveting interview on re-gifting this morning. Really, if you didn’t catch it, you’ll want to try to find it later on You Tube. Shame on me for thinking Al Roker was just a weather man. I completely underestimated his journalistic talents. My bad.
The passion with which he discussed the merits of re-gifting left me thinking about the practice and I wondered what my readers might think. I am generally okay with the practice. Re-gifting old junk, a la Creed from The Office (see 4:47 – 5:10), is not something I condone, but if it’s truly something someone else might need or enjoy, why not? I think we forget sometimes that gifts are, well, gifts – voluntary contributions. If I give you something I already own, is that not as much a gift as something I’ve purchased and then given to you? Besides, It’s the thought that counts, right?
I can only remember re-gifting once, and that was after our wedding. We got some really nice (too fancy) dishware with no receipts attached and no indication as to what store it came from. With no option to return them and get something more immediately useful, we were faced with two options. One, we could pack them away in a cupboard somewhere and hope they didn’t break before we actually got to use them, or two, we could give them to someone who might actually use them. I chose the latter.
A cousin of mine was getting married soon after who was older and had her own house. She was much more likely to be hosting dinner parties, so we gave them to her for her wedding, in addition to the money we had already planned on giving her. I felt good about passing them on to someone who might use them.
That feeling passed, however, when we later realized that we never checked the boxes to make sure that there was no card inside addressed to us on our wedding day. Considering at least one card and check went missing from our gifts, there’s a huge possibility that we had tucked some wedding cards inside gift boxes for easy transportation, leaving them there for my cousin to later find – proving that we re-gifted. I’ll never be sure this happened, but I’ll tread lightly around my cousin for a while just in case she doesn’t feel the same way about the value of re-gifting.
Lesson learned. Always, always check the product before re-gifting.